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Stressful Parenting: Tips for Finding Your Daily Balance - a Guest Post by Meera Watts

Today I am happy to share a timely and inspirational guest post by Meera Watts.

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Meera is a yoga teacher, entrepreneur and mom.   Her writing on yoga and holistic health has appeared in Elephant Journal, CureJoy, FunTimesGuide, OMtimes and others. She’s also the founder and owner of SiddhiYoga.com, a yoga teacher training school based in Singapore. Siddhi Yoga runs intensive, residential trainings in India (Rishikesh, Goa and Dharamshala), Indonesia (Bali).

It makes my heart happy, that Meera reached out and is sharing her tips, ideas and words of advice on how to parent with purpose, balance, connection, and joy here in this space.

 Her words resonated with me and these ideas reflect my actions and intentions on how I strive to live each day.  It was fun for me to intersperse some of my personal photography to compliment Meera's writing.

Be inspired and enjoy this guest post by Meera Watts!

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8AE98251-42DD-466E-881B-88D95CB927B0Having a family is one of the most fulfilling experiences you can have in life. It is also an incredible amount of work. As kids grow, they naturally test you plus you’re dealing with the usual stresses of life. To be a great parent, you need to stay mentally grounded. That’s right, mentally grounded. So how do you accomplish that? How do you remain calm in the eye of the storm on a daily basis? Here are some methods to help you maintain your daily balance and avoid stress.

Here are some of the benefits you will gain when you do have that balance in your life. You know it’s important to take care of yourself but you may not know why. Here are some solid reasons why balance in your life is good for everyone.

  • When you’re healthy in mind, this translates to positive interactions with your kids.
  • If you don’t have emotional balance, you can’t give emotionally to your kids.
  • You show your children the positive way to manage life physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. 
  • You harness mutual respect and who your children that the cup is always half full.
  • Taking care of your own well-being gives your child better well-being.
  • You can begin to understand what your wants and needs are and fulfill the healthy things.

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1. Wake Up Early

This may not be something you want to hear but to accomplish more out of your day and have some time to yourself, you should try to wake up earlier. Some people will get up 15 minutes early every day so as not to shock the body. You will have a lot more time for yourself, which is important, and you also have more time to get things done uninterrupted

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2. Be a Realistic

As a parent, you may be trying to take on too much. Setting a realistic amount of tasks for each day will alleviate the stress. Try to get one task done per day but don’t beat yourself up mentally if it’s not possible.

3. Be Empathetic to Yourself

Not every day is going to be a good feeling day. There are probably times where you feel grumpy, maybe even bitter. This is actually coming from a place of imbalance mentally. It isn’t going to help to feel bad about your true feelings. Question why you might be feeling the way you do and offer yourself care instead of criticism. 

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4. Find Your Tribe

As a tribal species, humans naturally navigate through life much easier when they have a trusted support group. When you get together with other parents that have a similar mind frame to you, you feel less alone. You can bounce off parenting ideas with one another and just vent when things are bothering you. Having a tribe can take a load of your mind because you know you always have people to lean on. We all need this kind of comradery in our lives.

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5. Organize Your Time

With so many tasks, you’ll want to preplan your activities, meals, and play dates. Finding a way to manage your time will allow you to get everything done. Floating through your days can cause you to have to rush for important things like picking up kids from their after-school activities. Pencil everything in or get an app that supports an organized life. 

6. Don’t Try To Be Perfect

Parents will often become stressed because they’re trying to keep up with other parents who are trying to do everything right. The thing is, every parent feels this way and nobody is actually managing to be the perfect mom or dad. Go easy on the things that you don’t do right. They are a learning experience. The attempt to be perfect is what will cause the biggest mistakes. Take it easy on yourself and enjoy the process of being a parent.

7. Say No to Things

Don’t burn yourself out by saying yes to everything. Many times parents will do things out of obligation as opposed to for pleasure. Kids notice this and will probably adopt the same habits as they get older. If you don’t want to do something because you’re exhausted or aren’t interested, just say no. IMG_1677

8. Have a Wellness Practice

The likes of meditation and yoga can be a helpful way to relieve the stress of parenthood and keep you balanced. Yoga is good for stretching out tenseness within the body and keeping you fit. As you breathe and focus on your movements, you aptly prepare for a meditation practice. It really only takes 20 minutes per day to meditate. The benefits for a parent are exponential. You are able to come to terms with the nagging voice in your head. You become centered and grounded which allows you to make decisions from your seat of consciousness. Guilt, stress, and worry can be managed when you look within. You do everyone in the family a favor when you nurture yourself first. You can create a space in your home to do yoga so it’s convenient to hop on the mat.

Take opportunities to be good to yourself throughout the day. Get to bed at a decent hour so you can enjoy some time in the morning to yourself. When you can keep yourself grounded, your kids feel more safe and stable. You offer a nurturing environment and can see the bright side in even the challenging moments of parenthood.

 Thank you, Meera for sharing these great tips!

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